also sometimes i get frustrated when the only thing people take away from complaints about a popular slash ship not being canon already because the text is always joking about [oh boyfriends??? would that be two queens??? etc.] is
WRITERS DO MY BIDDING I COMMAND YOU
that’s not what was (usually) said
make it canon
it’s a very reasonable request to not be a douchy human being and to not trivialize other experiences and/or identities while perpetuating heterosexism, racism, etc.
which reminds me
i know most of the time i talk about queerbaiting
but i think that het ships are baited too — which of course, isn’t surprising because hey, baiting is the easiest way to be a dick, isn’t it, it’s just a joke you know, come on laugh while i prod you painfully in the ribs
thinking mostly of donna and the doctor when people asked if they were a couple and they assured everyone all the time that they weren’t as a running gag that got old really fucking fast let me tell you
and i’m pretty sure it happened to castle and beckett too? i’m not sure—i kinda stopped watching the series after the first two seasons
but as far as i can tell, this sort of “baiting” occurs in two contexts:
so take donna/doctor — even though Donna is portrayed as a bride twice, she isn’t portrayed in the same way as Rose or Martha (or even Amy). Her bride status is, actually, especially in her introductory episode, designed to be a joke and to illustrate my god, who’d want to marry you! which gets subverted eventually—but it still existed, and it was still there
and the narrative relentlessly goes out of its way to point out how lol-worthy it is to even think of the doctor and donna together.
and is it any coincidence that the only serious romantic contenders for the doctor’s affections in the new, rebooted series measure up to the privileged ideal?
the second is actually fairly popular with most canon ships or ships working its way to being canon: castle/beckett, mulder/scully (i only watched the first season of x-files, but i’d be damn surprised if they didn’t do it at least once); bones/booth, etc.
this device could also count as foreshadowing, i suppose (my severe dislike for this particular trope would also describe it as a cheap attempt at foreshadowing but that is probably just my bias leaking through)
it just gets really interesting you know
how the rules change depending upon the ship
i’m kind of at a loss when people get mad at other people for getting mad that their ships will never be canon even though it’s joked about on the show (which is basically the writers acknowledging that the ship exists and then mocking the mere idea of it existing) because
who wants to be a joke all the time?
i mean that’s pretty gross
it’s a “”“nice”“” way of saying you’re undesirable and unworthy of that particular story or even of being really.
and it’s just a particularly vitriolic kind of cruelty that really should have no place at all in anything.
it is upsetting to see plenty other certain kind of ships always getting the teased to fulfillment treatment (and, inevitably, these ships are usually the ones that measure up to whatever privileged norm that’s been ascribed as ideal) while others are consistently denied it (which, not so shockingly, don’t measure up completely in those same ways)
and it is perfectly legitimate to get mad about it and to ask writers to either stop doing it or to make it canon
because god forbid we demand other people to be decent human beings amirite or amirite
i know i’ve said this before and i know that i’ve been mocked for it before
shipping does not exclusively happen in fandom.
the powers that be of whatever show? ship harder than even the fiercest members of fandom
they might ship in different ways
they might even not use the word “shipping” because language and language elitism and the divide between canon and fanon and what all
but they do because they are the creators of the canon
and what those people ship and how those people ship it says a lot about the canon the writers are creating in this act of story-telling and shipping
in the same way that shipping says a lot about a fandom and the people therein.